“What’s going on here? A photoshoot?” a woman asks, approaching the parking guard who is posing on the side of the road for a photo that I am snapping. While paying for my parking I decided to delve into his dreams and here we are now taking his photo.
“Well, I’m doing a project where I am going around Cape Town and asking random people what their dreams are in life, what wishes they desire to manifest and then I take their photo and am putting it all together in a blog” I begin to explain to her.
“What an amazing project! Is it part of your studies?” she asks interestedly.
“No I’m just doing it on my own” I begin. I guess it is part of my studies, but not through any formal institution, just of life itself! “If you would like to have your photo taken and to tell me your dream I’d love to hear it!” I say playfully kind of expecting her to turn down the offer and say she has a job to get to or something like that.
“Sure! I’d love to!” she responds enthusiastically to my surprise. A part of me wonders at times if this project is too much of an interrogation into the personal lives of strangers and so this woman’s kind smile and keen energy to share reminds me why I am doing this in the first place. “How many dreams can I have?” she asks.
“As many as you like! Whatever your vision is – I’d love to hear it!”
“Ok, well I have two. I have MS, multiple sclerosis, which is a disease that doesn’t allow me to have children” she begins, untying her hair from her pony tail, presumably getting prepped up for her photo. A part of me feels immediately honoured that this complete stranger is sharing her personal life with me straight off the bat. “My husband and I really wanted kids, but we couldn’t have any ourselves because of my condition I can’t carry a child”.
“I’m so sorry…”
“But we have a child who is 20 months old and who is the biggest blessing in my life! We used a surrogate with my egg and my husband’s sperm, and she carried our child for us! It has been the greatest miracle in our lives!” she says excitedly. “And secret, secret” her voice comes down a notch in volume “we have number 2 on the way using the same surrogate! It’s so exciting!”
“Wow! Congratulations! I’m so happy for you!”
“And so my first dream would be that all women, who so desire, have the chance to have their own children – even if they can’t physically carry them themselves, because of whatever scenario they find themselves, that they are able to find someone else to carry it for them. Having a child is the most incredible blessing! This is my first dream,” she says happily. Her zealous demeanour is contagious, it’s almost as though speaking about her child has turned her into one – full of light hearted energy.
“And my second dream… well, the medication that I am taking for my MS is a very new age therapy and my medical insurance doesn’t cover it, so I am having to finance my own health because they won’t pay for it. Many people find themselves in the same position. So my second dream is that everyone has access to health care, regardless of who they are and what their sickness is, that we all have equal rights to proper health care!” she takes a moment of contemplation. “What more could I ask for?” You know that feeling when everything feels possible? Well, she is exuding that feeling as she talks about her dreams – and it’s for this very momentary lapse of all-is-possible-ness that I love doing this.
“I totally agree with you! Thank you so much for sharing yourself with me, I really appreciate it! You are inspiring! And I hope that your second child brings as much joy to you as the first and that your dreams come true… for all of us!”
“I’m putting 2 thumbs up because of my 2 dreams!” she smiles as I snap her shot. We give one another a hug before going our separate ways. As I continue walking down the street I feel a deep sense of gratitude towards this woman for sharing herself so openly with me. Imagine a world where everyone shared their deepest thoughts with total strangers – we all would become like a family, a unit. We would all be conscious creators inside the giant dream of life 🙂
What do you think? What’s your dream? What’s your vision?